We being a capsule of body mind and soul need to balance body as well as mind. Sometimes, change in breathing pattern can change the mental attitude like if you extend the exhalation time, you will feel relaxed even during exams, interview, work pressure, etc and after you feel relaxed by changing or tuning your breathing and then you can use mental faculties to retain that calm and relaxation. I am saying so because some times what happens during anxiety or tension period, we do not have hold on our mind, at that time, we can use our breath to hold little bit on our emotions and then use our mental faculty to stabilize our emotions. Some times our body being in fatigue is not in a position to do some tasks, at that time, we use our mental power or emotions to do those jobs and after the body is started to run, we can use the body to retain that activity. In this way, we need to use the balance of our body as well as mind, both. We cannot deny any single component. So, I suggest you to go for relaxation techniques - yoga nidra, progressive relaxation, etc. as well a pranayama - kapalbhati (not to overstrain), naadishuddhi pranayama as well as some asanas or little physical activity to achieve endodrine balance which are responsible for our mental stability.
To achieve emotional stability, yoga emphasize on purification on body and mind. The body is purified by shatkarmas as well as diet and mind by yama and niyama. Pratyahara, Dharana and dhyana helps in increasing concentration and purification of the mind as well as train it.
But most important factor you should not ignore for emotional stability is your self-esteem. If you lose your self esteem, you will develop emotional issues as and when it will be hurt. Generally, because of certain repetitive circumstances in childhood or young age, we develop low self esteem. In that case, it is very essential to address this issue of low self esteem to maintain emotional stability.
Alongwith, it is required that you should practice autogenic training, bio-feedback and Mindfulness if you are really suffering from emotional stability issues.
You should develop 4 habits to prevent tear of your self -esteem by others. This will help you keep emotional calm:
- Replace the need for External Validation- If you think something you like or you did is good for you, that's quite enough. If other appreciate, it is good, if not it is ok. Respect yourself. Stop looking for validation from other people. Lower your dependence on what others say.
- Stop comparing yourself with others - This rips your happiness and peace of mind. It should not make any difference if any one is better in finance or talent than you are. You should have right to have your own dignity. Wherever you are in life, you are complete. Protect your mind from developing envy and instead develop love and kindness.
- Making Mistakes - Every human being is prone to making mistakes. Even Warren Buffet, the richest investor in the world, has confessed about his mistakes every time in his letters to investors.
- Be Assertive - Don't be afraid to make the choices that matter you.
