16 steps to break the habit of masturbation
Reading this article is a welcome step to break the addictive habit and stop victimization and avoid guilt arising out of this act.
Mechanics of Habit Formation
Let’s understand the mechanism. Our most of the actions are responses to the stimuli for sake of pleasure or avoid pain. Stimulus -> Response -> Achievement of Pleasure or Avoidance of Pain. In fact, our actions are focused to achieve pleasure or avoid pain.
Initially, we have freedom to choose our response to the sexual stimulus. Every time, before response, we have thinking process to analyse whether to do or not. When we repeatedly produce such responses, they become habit and on every stimulus, same response are produced bypassing the thought process and therefore, we are not able to control our responses and we become victim of such harmful habits.
Response to sexual stimuli has to achieve pleasure. So, either we need to fix targets which give us pleasure greater than sexual response or attach some pain to this sexual act so that you can avoid it. The only thing you can do is to understand the damages/ losses associated with this habit.
1.Check Your Pattern of Compulsive Desire
Observe the time as and when you are bound to seek sexual pleasure. Most probably, it is the time when you are either alone. It is not your physical loneliness, or simply alone in your house. Your mental emptiness is crucial moment to drag you into such habit of masturbation. So, ensure that you are always busy or preoccupied with some important tasks or assignments that are very much important and has deadlines so you should be automatically bound to work on those tasks and easily avoid the habit of masturbation.
2. Avoid the Sources of Stimulations
Avoid books, movies or talks with your friends, having sexual stimulations etc. Replace with some business oriented books, personal development, skill development books. People generally become addicted to masturbating acts because of wasteful thoughts and negative thoughts. So keep your mind extremely busy with your tasks as well as positive thoughts. Avoid whatsapp jokes, facebook posts which stimulates you to sexual act.
3. Join Fitness Regime
Do some physical exercises. Even join gym. You should also add yogic exercises to your exercise regime. Physical and yogic exercise help body release endorphins which keeps you mentally happy.
4. Focus on Diet
Leave junk foods or processed foods as the chemicals / preservatives used in these foods chemically induce you (hormonal changes which influence the mind) to attempt such masturbation acts. Also minimize cold drinks, beverages, etc.
5. Act of Happiness
Avoid depression or frustration or acts that cause such feelings. Because during such feelings, you are prone to drag into attempting masturbation. Do those things that make you happy and give sense of achievements, even those achievements are small, but these are enough to keep you satisfied.
6. Gratitude works Wonder.
Keep gratitude journal. After reading this article completely, buy one notebook and write all achievements be small or large of your life. Now, on every night, write one sentence for what good has happened on that day. To know more on how the gratitude habit can bring positive changes in your life, you can read The Gratitude Book Project: Celebrating 365 Days of Gratitude
7. Autosuggestion - Power of Mind
You will need to practice auto-suggestion. Do not be afraid. You need to just practice few minutes before sleeping at night and after waking up in the morning. At night, just with full feelings say to yourself the following repeatedly until you sleep. In the morning, with full feeling repeat to yourself with full intention and feeling, the following. This should be done first for 28 days and then you can let me know thereafter, I will suggest you next autosuggestion.
I feel energetic and happy when I abstain from masturbation. I feel so much better… without masturbation… so much healthier… so much happier… I find that each and every day I feel more attractive, more confident, more joyful, stronger, more able to form lasting relationships with other people. As my relationships improve, I notice an extra benefit. My energy level increases dramatically. This becomes a cycle of progress with my energy level increasing, while my relationships are becoming easier and more natural.I feel better and better every day.
You can even record your sound with these autosuggestions in your sound and make it alarm in your mobile phone and even play this recording every morning and every night.
8. Bach Flower Therapy
Take the help of bach flower therapy. You can use cherry plum and crab tree. These does not have any negative side effect. But it can cost you money. Even you can consult homoeopath or bach flower therapist. This will help you to channelize your thoughts.
9.Gem Therapy
Though little effects, you can also take the help of pearl gem to be worn on right hand’s little finger.
10. Learn Meditation & Relaxation to control your body and mind.
You can practice relaxation and meditation. During relaxation, you can scan your body from toes of the feet to head through all the parts of body in between. In meditation, try to increase your soul consciousness. The more you are conscious of body, the more you will be dragged into doing sexual attempts. You can also take the help of anchoring or linking. This method is used autogenic training.
11. Social Service and Engagements
Join some social service so that you can get good wishes of the people whom you help and with the energy of their wishes, you can stand up to control your mind. Help people more and more, you will live life fully.
12. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy
Change your cognition towards the attempt of masturbation. Now-a-days, marketers have spread this act as normal one. The real picture is opposite, it is victimizing the people and ripping them of their morals and mental power as well as making them full of guilt. Too much comes with a physical and psychological cost. Any addictive behavior cannot be normal, if you are not able to perform routine work or if it is interfering with your normal functioning, then it means that this habit is abnormal. This is not abnormal mentally but also physically. Your background thoughts are important factors to drag you to this habit or keep you away from this act of masturbation.
13.Be Creative
Choose some constructive work, the more you are constructive, the more your mind is calm and under control. This keeps you more positive, and the more positive, the more balanced your mind is. You can also learn some new real life skills, etc. Even psychology course will be better. You can join courses from IGNOU. There are various courses available from certificate courses to degree courses which can be completed at your convenience. There are video /online courses at Udemy that are very cheaper that any one can complete at own comfort and once purchased, it remains forever in the account. You can also use the Free online courses at edx.org.
14. Live and Love Nature
Go to some natural place. These places will heal you and help you to prevent from negative electromagnetic effects of computers, gadgets, TV , etc. of technology that have become parts of office and home.
15. Use Positive Vibrations
Drink charged water. Before drinking, always charge it with your thoughts of positivity and purity. This means programming water to have particular qualities to enhance personal development and get rid of negative habits. You can charge by seeing the drinks (not alcohol ) / water and visualizing that you are radiating vibrations of purity and power from your eyes. Do this for 5 seconds and then drink slowly. This will bring positive changes in your body and mind in a week.
16. Detoxification
Detoxify your body. Eat plenty of fruits and water, within your financial capacity. Toxins in the body influence the mind badly.
I have written briefly 16 points which require explanation on each point in form of separate article so that you can easily follow them. If you are interested in understanding these points and follow, comment on this answer. I will be happy to explain each of these points so that you can get help to free yourself from addiction from masturbation habit. I will be happy if any point helps you to manage yourself and grow in your personal development.
All the best!
