Dear Jig,
Thank you for writing here to share your experience.
I think that celibacy is not what I interpret from your question, i.e. indulging in sexual act and not ejaculating the semen and holding thereto. It is somewhat part of tantra. Celibacy is something other than this and it is purely at the level of mind. Celibacy is beyond the physical level, i.e. controlling the mind of its thoughts as well as restraining the five senses so that you should not crave for sensual pleasure. So, I would suggest not to burn the candle from both sides - i.e. indulging in sexual act as well as restraining it. It is better to avoid any kind of triggers that cause sexual stimulation for pleasure, so that you should not get trapped in such situation of bearing the physical pain and bearing the mental force of ejaculation so as to get relief.
Now coming straightway to your question on blue balls which is medically known as epididymal hypertension (EH) and that is pain in the testicles after having sexual stimulation but without an orgasm. During sexual arousal, blood flows to the area around penis and scrotum which is responsible for the erection. But if a man stays in a state of sexual arousal for too long without getting an orgasm, the blood may get accumulated in the testicles temporarily. This can result in painful sensations. Now, the general solution most people naturally find to get relief is ejaculation. But if one does not ejaculate, the pain naturally subsides after a while, subject to the condition that one's mind becomes free of sexual thoughts which are driving for sexual arousal. If one's mind is saturated with sexual thoughts, it will take some more time for the pain to subside. But as you mentioned to preserve your semen, it is wise not to ejaculate and simultaneously, get relief from the pain. You can understand if 'too long indulgence' without orgasm is the factor for blue balls.
The first and only condition is to distract your mind of the sexual thoughts and clear it and replace with some other thoughts that require little more concentration and then you can choose any one or two of the following methods of relieving from pain out of prolonged sexual stimulation:
- Go outside and engage yourself in some outdoor game of somewhat little physical exertion. Do some workout like light jumping, running, or push-ups. You may try to wear supporter but check if it causes more pain to already swollen and painful testicles.
- You can take cold water bath, if it is feasible to you as per your climate or simply apply ice or cold water on the lower abdominal area.
- You can do Yoga Mudra (bending forward in padmasana, ensure that you do not have back pain)
- Mahabandha (simultaneous moolabandha, uddiyana bandha and jalandhar bandha with bahir kumbhaka) can help you to get relief. But the pain may come again if the mind is still in the same erotic perception. During testicular pain, moola bandha may be skippable if it causes further pain. Mahabandha appears to be more easily done and effective but again you need to check if it works for you. Alternate with deep breath or breathing in 1:2 ratio to achieve quick results.
- Yoga Nidra can also help to relax yourself and let the blood accumulated in the testicles resume its normal circulation.
If you are following left tantra to achieve kundalini awakening, you may also refer to Yogani's Literature on Kundalini Awakening at https://www.aypsite.org/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=7299 or simply, google for Tantric Sex, if your primary focus is the same.
Hope the above reply helps you. You can freely write to me for further clarifications, I will be happy to reply your question. However, you should also consult your physician for the blue balls.
